tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post3058104162442437256..comments2023-03-26T03:21:26.006-04:00Comments on My Family Sucked!!! Life After Estrangement.: How Some of The Rest of My Family "Works"Winterskiprincesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-29324601825876919122011-07-17T18:10:11.395-04:002011-07-17T18:10:11.395-04:00I understand those feelings. For me, there came ...I understand those feelings. For me, there came a point where I knew what I knew, and I did not engage in the shenanigans anymore. My donors deny deny deny. That's fine, as I know that we ALL know what they are doing. That is their choice, and I gave them the opportunity.<br /><br />There are all these stages to this thing called estrangement, and when we feel comfortable with one thing or get comfortable in our own skin, then we can really see things clearly and act accordingly IMO.Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-64345937117658387922011-07-17T18:04:19.866-04:002011-07-17T18:04:19.866-04:00Can't help feeling that I'm letting them o...Can't help feeling that I'm letting them off too easily! There's a certain satisfaction to be had when you call them on their bull shit but my crowd can twist/deny things to suit themselves so therein lies the futility of wasting a stamp!mulderfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500535934417551223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-19546224200568445002011-07-17T17:25:48.439-04:002011-07-17T17:25:48.439-04:00I have been in conflict on how to cousel you on th...I have been in conflict on how to cousel you on that. On the one hand, the fairy book ending did not happen for me. You know, where the donors at least here and acknowledge me OR even certain members of my family.<br /><br />On the other hand, my thoughts are out there, I said it and I reached out. I feel I have acted honorably and the way I would want to be contacted. If I have any regrets, it is that I am too polite and niave sometimes.<br /><br />So I have had the experience of being frustrated short term. Long term, they can't say they don't know why or what went on. They've tried to say that before, only to hear from me yet again explaining it in quite a bit of detail. I have repeated it until there is no way that they can claim otherwise .<br /><br />In the future, they also know how to reach out and contact me. So the all is in their court where I threw it in the first place. I imagine that I won't be getting a third party message AGAIN from my aunts or uncles. Plus, they are not in my life, they have never bothered to reach out, and therefore it is none of their damn business. It's like sticking your nose into a total strangers business.Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-73365918526705586102011-07-17T11:48:11.010-04:002011-07-17T11:48:11.010-04:00Keep thinking I should write something to my NPs b...Keep thinking I should write something to my NPs but it would be a wasted stamp!<br /><br />Three questions suggested by my latest therapist say it all:<br />Will it be heard?<br />Will it be understood?<br />Will it change anything?<br /><br />When I answered "No" to all three, after just one session, she told me I didn't need to see her anymore!<br /><br />Rev. Renee has suggested I might one to send something just by way of a cleansing vent. Still undecided.<br /><br />Glad you posted again. Always makes me smile and feel connected to someone who's been there, done that, and been screwed out of the shirt!mulderfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500535934417551223noreply@blogger.com