tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post326600019144490099..comments2023-03-26T03:21:26.006-04:00Comments on My Family Sucked!!! Life After Estrangement.: Bizzaro WorldWinterskiprincesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-10036357037845603792013-09-07T11:59:18.674-04:002013-09-07T11:59:18.674-04:00Thank you. I did read some of those stories and ...Thank you. I did read some of those stories and questions. Heartbreaking because I know how being there feels. And I know how working out of that state is. It is a lot of hard work and building yourself up. I am still not to a place where I inherently don't think I am good enough or have accomplished enough. I am getting there though, and farther along than I was!<br /><br />That site is a great resource for anyone going through this.Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-61385868313326144172013-09-02T13:08:41.566-04:002013-09-02T13:08:41.566-04:00In case you haven't heard of it, there is a gr...In case you haven't heard of it, there is a group for people who were raised by people like your parents: http://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists<br /><br />You will need a Reddit account to post there, but you don't need one to read the stories there. From what I have read in one of your longer posts, I think you will find the stories very similar to what you have gone through.<br /><br />I am so sorry you have parents like that. I hear you... my parents are quite similar and I cut contact with all of them (bio and steps) years ago. It was all too toxic to deal with anymore. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-66240688136000499882013-06-23T18:17:33.289-04:002013-06-23T18:17:33.289-04:00I so agree with Glady's that they think they c...I so agree with Glady's that they think they created us from nothing but dust . Like we should be so gratefull they humped each other and the condom broke and they created this entity that became me and I should be their indentured servant for ever more. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-3774810828883778612013-06-23T11:43:49.052-04:002013-06-23T11:43:49.052-04:00It's my belief that narcs think they created u...It's my belief that narcs think they created us, therefor they own us.<br /><br />It's a "YOU BELONG TO ME" thing but with a Frankenstein twist. I created you, you have been mine since birth. You are my creation and I need you to work correctly.<br /><br />They feel we aren't entitled to have feelings because WE AREN'T. We are robots fashioned by them, for them. <br /><br />Then as humans we have the audacity to grow a brain and empathy and courage - these things were not created by them, they don't understand them and these things must be stomped and eradicated. <br /><br />Think of Nightmare before Christmas (if you've seen it) the mad scientist made Sally, and owns her. She starts to wander outside the castle and he reminds her ferociously that he owns her! She tells him he can make other creations! someone more in line with his desires! So, he does. He takes half of his own brain and makes another creation, who is then much more compliant and responsive to the mad scientist.<br /><br />They don't want you to 'grow up' because you are changing the dynamic they feel they are owed, seeing as they created you. You are a tool for them to use, not one of those people who live OUT THERE. You are different. You are belongs to ME, I CONTROL YOU ROBOT!<br /><br />It's like the mirror thing - they created you to be just like them, and then when you grow (as I said) things like empathy they cannot fathom what the fuck went wrong with the building plans, they do not know such behavior, don't recognize it, it's a glitch in the system, all hands on deck!!<br /><br />They fight to tinker with your tubes and wires to get you back under control - robots gone wild.Gladyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03379796403577898107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-72850476430339104522013-06-22T16:20:32.025-04:002013-06-22T16:20:32.025-04:00I've even worked with "professionals"...I've even worked with "professionals" who didn't "get" that kids have no control over their family situations and, in my case, have no idea that another version of the universe even exists.<br /><br />I think we all have pictures like this where we're playing "happy family" or maybe there were times when we really were happy, especially as young children: a)We didn't know any better and b)Things didn't start to unravel until we were old enough to take care of our own basic needs AND began to question the status quo!<br /><br />At some point in time (preteen) I like to think my parents were, at least, a little bit fond of me but around 13 it began to come unglued. Not sure why because they made me a virtual slave with chores at that point and I simply accepted it as my lot.<br /><br />Eggy and Spermy is kinda cute!mulderfanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500535934417551223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-2370235581756146162013-06-22T15:15:00.364-04:002013-06-22T15:15:00.364-04:00Yk, It took me years to realize Psychob did not kn...Yk, It took me years to realize Psychob did not know me at all-and didn't care to either. My only value to her was "Bragging Rights" but her underlying belief was I was located here for her to use and abuse at her whim. My feelings towards childhood and growing up (such as it was) remain to this day, "Fear/Terror and Powerlessness."<br />It also took years for the realization that I actually *was* a really good kid to sink in. If I had not NC'd I would have spent the rest of my life believing I was somehow Fatally Flawed and a Huge Disappointment as a human being.<br />Projection by a Cluster B "Parent" is nothing more than their own desire to escape the reality they failed spectacularly in every and the most important aspects of Parenting. It doesn't cost a penny to unconditionally love your child, to raise them to be INDEpendent, capable adults.<br />They are incapable of either. Unfortunately, they attempted to smear their own crap all over us and I'm sure I'm not the only one who was, in my younger years a "true believer." Until I wasn't.<br />It was at that point (NC) that I began to receive all kinds of really, really nasty "attention" which served to confirm and reinforce my NC decision and completely disabuse me of any perhaps unconscious belief to use Eggy's Words, "I might be wrong..." ;)<br />TW Tundra Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12262066568878267648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-635559152822633642013-06-22T14:15:17.318-04:002013-06-22T14:15:17.318-04:00Some people that I would call parents, would be ha...Some people that I would call parents, would be happy that their children were growing up and informing their own opinions. Instead of trying to squelch that for their own purposes. Or perhaps solely to soothe their fragile ego.Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-3749567673938948322013-06-22T14:14:07.745-04:002013-06-22T14:14:07.745-04:00I actually think those terms are too cutesy for th...I actually think those terms are too cutesy for them, but I am not hard hearted enough to give them what I feel they deserves (as far as labels go).Winterskiprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17540416561657173099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29002686.post-14725272271508855742013-06-22T12:31:30.974-04:002013-06-22T12:31:30.974-04:00Spermy and eggy...I love it!Spermy and eggy...I love it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com