Obituaries, funerals, and eulogies can be complete and utter BS sometimes. My name was put on the sperm donor's obituary, and the text quoted above ["a wonderful and supportive father'] was one of the last lines. To who? My stepbrothers are listed as if they are his biological children; they must have meant them. For his only biological child and daughter (me), this is a lie. Not a little lie, but a big fat lie. "Supportive fathers"s do not do the things my Sperm Donor did. I know because I have seen actual supportive, loving fathers.
Of course, people aren't going to put negatives out there in an obituary. Couldn't they have just left my name out if they were going to end with that whopper? I mean, if the sperm donor was a "wonderful and supportive father," then the Step Monster was the mother I never had but always wanted. WTF!
You know why they did not leave my name out? The answer is appearances. There are some other flowery fairy dust things in the obituary that are all about exaggerating the appearance rather than toning it down closer to reality. Families, and especially my Step Monsters, have to ratchet those adjectives and exaggerate any accomplishment so it sounds like he was just the best at everything and to everyone. FFS
The claim that he was a "wonderful & supportive father" just ticked me off. Hey, Sperm Donor, we both know the truth, don't we? A flowery obituary with lies and half-truths does not change history. Hey, Step Monster and Spawn, you know the truth, too.
They also said in the obituary that there would be a private burial, knowing they had cremated the Sperm Donor. I don't mind cremation, but why outright lie (I know it is for their precious appearances) in the obituary?
BTW, I don't want my obituaries or eulogies to be anything like that. I don't really want an obituary or an eulogy, especially if it is going to be akin to unicorns farting rainbows. Maybe I should do that exercise as I am getting older. My grandmother had everything ready to go when she died. I believe most of the arrangements were in place and her wishes known. At this Roman Catholic funeral, there was no eulogy. Instead, each grandchild read a bible verse from a selection to read. I am not big on the Bible, so I picked the least offensive verse, which had a lovely sentiment.
Her obituary is closer to what I would want. Also, my Uncle Dick's obituary was funny and captured his personality perfectly. Family and love were the main themes in both of them. While I wouldn't be in the know per se, it didn't seem like there was over-the-top exaggeration or lies.
