Thursday, March 17, 2011
Mulderfan shares their thoughts in a couple of excellent blog posts that illustrates abuse heaped on her spouse:
Guilt After Spousal Abuse
Upsi also shares how her own mother put Upsi's husband between them!
Destination: Gaslight Junction (or as I like to think of it, rewriting history to make one the hero of the story)
I think what really pissed me off when either of my donors disrespected, went after, or used my husband was the following "didn't they get enough jollies out of the mistreatment of me"? I mean really, you see us a couple of times of year, I am being the dutiful daughter and sucking it up, but you need to also do these things to him? That was unacceptable to me. It also tells you how lacking in self esteem that I was, that it needed to come to that for me to say "A FUCKING NOUGH ALREADY".
They both tried to use my husband readily enough when the estrangement began, and this is after my female donor had nothing but criticisms to say to me behind his back. And my male donor felt it appropriate for him and his monster of a wife to call my husband at work, while his mother was dying, for the sole purpose of complaining about me (and in the monster's case to be sure he did not want to list our house through her).
Really, it had to come to that for me to really really see them. Astonishing, as I am not a stupid person nor normally so willing to have people treat me shabbily. Just thinking about it, pisses me off all over again.
I saw a posting on a board that unfortunately describes what I feel for my donors "I despise them, I really do."