I knew it, I'm surrounded by Assholes.
When I shut my mouth and turn to walk away...
And then some really disturbing posts that I found:
Estrangement An Act Boarding on Evil
Our Son Has Been Served
There is one that I now can't find that basically said that if at least their daughter was dead, the would get to see their grandchildren. WTF? Horrifying. I remember getting a letter from saying "I don't even know if I am a great grandmother yet." No interest in me or anything, just in anything that may have sprung from me. I didn't have any children, but in any case if I had answered the answer would have been "no you are not a great grandmother".
Just a hint, if you are trying to reconcile with someone, you might want to show an interest in the PERSON you are