I did want to start searching for some new bloggers just, perhaps, beginning to dip their toes into their feelings on their dysfunctional families. Some of these blogs I am finding, do not specifically deal with this topic as the premise for their whole blog. I found at least two very compelling items today to share though:
A Letter I Won't Send My Father
The E-Mail I Did Send to My Estranged Father
I do not have the same circumstances, but could definitely identify with the emotions and conflicting feelings and thoughts.
I found some more articles (but not individual blogs) on family estrangement topics:
Advice on moving from estrangement to reconciliation
Facebook and Family Estrangement
10 Points to Consider Before Reconciling
We don't have to agree on everything
The actual personal blogs were harder to find. I had to find them by going to older family estrangement blogs, and figuring out who they followed and who was still posting. This led to these:
The Elephant in The Room
Narcissists are attention whores
What narcs hate the most
3 comments:
I blog very little these days because I'm enjoying, what I jokingly call my "dull" life.
Occasionally, I still encounter people that mistake me for a doormat and I assume the years of conditioning at the hands of my parents have left me with some kind of invisible vibe that bullies/narcs pick up. I'm at a glorious place in my life that doesn't require me to tolerate abuse for either financial or personal reasons, so I just pick up my marbles and leave the game. Not being a complete coward, I'll admit I have a tendency to rip the perpetrator and new "one" before I take my leave.
In fact, I have the healthiest relationship with my daughter that I have ever had and continue to enjoy a great relationship with my cousins who also turned their backs on my NFOO. A few close friendships that go back almost 30 years round out the picture.
My only regret would be that I didn't stay NC way back in 1990 which was the first time I did it for an extended period. But then, hindsight is 20/20!
Yes, I regret reopening a relationship with my sperm donor and the step monster back in 1987! I put up with them for another 18 years of my life.
I was living with what I was told over and over again my whole life, that I was nothing without them. In fact, the opposite was true, I was not the me I could be WITH allowing them to continue to treat me the way they did.
That conditioning takes a long time to get through (at least I hope it does or I am exceedingly stupid LOL).
BTW, I meant to congradulate you on enjoying your dull life. I don't know if it's that I was already a little wild in my youth, but I really appreciate dull in my life as well.
It took some doing to realize everything did not need to be drama all the time, and that drama is not an enjoyable place to be (unless you are at a play or movie enjoying a fictional story that does not involve you).
I am very happy for you, and also happy that some other bloggers may also be busy enjoying their "dull" (ie free from drama) lives as well.
Proof that we can all move on successfully and happily.
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