One Angry Daughter's excellent post made me remember that I started the below post, and what great info this might be to someone who has not totally "come out" yet OR is not comfortable in their own skin. It also fits into Upsi's topic where a cyber stalker has latched onto a better way to project their rage which their estranged daughter no longer allows.
I work self employed in an occupation that, frankly, does allow for some pretty questionable people to call themselves "professionals". I mean this term as something outside of an actual craft, but as in ethics, teaching ability, empathy, compassion for others, honesty, experience (as in fabricated sometimes or a legend in their own mind)and business sense. When things (especially honesty, ethics ET) are lacking, what can you really bring away from these people anyway? Especially if their are people offering services who do have ethics, honesty, compassion, experience expertise, empathy, teaching ability and business sense.
I have this online list that I have been a member of since 2004. The list was closed, moved, and remained in a "protected" state. This means it is a safe place where "professionals" (and apparently some people's opinion differs than mine) can speak their mind. It is also an unfortunate place where people are endlessly bullied to conform with some IMO pretty twisted thinking. Since many of the members have been in some form or another "professionally" (and others this is not their full time career) involved with dogs, this means that another person can not have a different opinion. Some of the bullies who keep others silent (and I know this due to the e-mails that I receive) will completely go off the topic without hesitation and attack you personally. This is how I found out (had suspected due to a feedburner snafoo that probably one or more people had linked me to this blog) that these particular disturbed dog trainers had found me.
Was the conversation about family estrangement? Er, no. Though perhaps I took an unfair jab at Smellanour, who likes community rules changed to her liking (meanwhile if the shoe had ever been on anybody's foot prior to this, they would have been the object of her abuse) cause she didn't bother to research the canine legislation for these dogs who were "more than her pets" in a relatives illness. (and since she claims to have been a rescue at that time, and running a rescue ....not really sure what the story was other than she wanted to get her way) I normally wouldn't give someone a hard time about this, but she lives on a dog list that discusses greatly canine laws and how they limit owners. She researched everything else of course except the canine laws and ended up with like 7 or 8 dogs too many and needed to rehome them. Something she could have done easier and without drama, but in the end the community decided to keep their laws rather than cow down to Smellaneour. Her mother was ill so she had moved, and that spiralled into the "I know all about you and your blog, you selfish so and so." Cause you know the interesting thing about Smellenour or people like this in general is that they can ONLY empathize with themselves. So even though my parents aren't dying and are fully wealthy enough to take care of themselves with better care than I could give them, now I am evil just in case I am in the same boat as her. Of course, she knows what my decision would be, never mind that my donors may very well out live me!!! LOLOL, but a delusional person like this can not see that HER situation is not only not the same as MY situation, but it is none of her fucking business. AND that I don't need to think culling puppies is great when they can have full lives due to a defect AND I actually do not have to think the same way as she does.
It is weird that she was so fascinated that she stored this info for a long time, before springing it and actively follows me. Weird, bizarre and more than a little sick, I think. Whatever floats her boat though, apparently life is not full enough for her. Glad I could help fill in some of the holes.
Yeah, the conversation was not about exceeding local law limits on canines either. It was because I said "I don't believe in culling (killing) a puppy from a litter because it does not meet a standard, or because it has a defect but can live out their lives". Oh, the bruh haha that ensued was remarkable, because I wouldn't take my opinion back. An Airedale breeder whose name was something like pumpkin seed, needed to say that I didn't want to breed because I knew I would have to cull in that way from a comment that did not resemble that at all.
We all know this as gas lighting, straw man, red herring... These people who exist feeding off the weaker simply because their opinions may vary than theirs, are people that don't realize others have outed their kind before.
And they are not worth our time. I did unsubscribe from the list NOT because my (non) secret was out. I can care less. I don't care what they think about me as a dog trainer never mind my personal decisions in my life. It was because I realized this is basically all the feedback you get on this list from these "professionals". Most of whom can not play well with others, and so felt the need to leave all the professional organizations that they ever belonged to, because not everyone would think their way.
So hi my BOL club (Bitter Old Ladies), and read away. Hey, don't be an anonymouse next time, and let your name and opinions be known and shine. Wanna tell anyone your views on culling or is that just on "secret" lists?
Gonna take more than that to ruffle my feathers. Hey thanks for documenting those interesting items on that list though. More people know how you really operate now, and it's not attractive.
Gotta wonder if this is the same person now stalking other people's blogs. I could see these people doing this. Especially now that they have been cut off from other venues of bullying, regulated to their "secret" list with other like minded bullies. What fun is that for a bully to now be on a list where everyone opinions must be the same? God, they have to branch out somewhere don't they. So my apologies if they have branched out to a blog near you.