Look at Anony Mouse comment on this post. I don't know why such judgemental and ugly people never seem to see the help that they need to get for themselves, do you?
I think it's interesting as this Anony Mouse claims to have a similar history, yet they can not see their own disfunction in what they are doing that is as plain as day. But can they see others? You bet!
And here are some great other posts on other blogs that deal with this!